Hey you guys! I’ve been living on cloud 9 for a few days now. I finally met up with him!!!

Let me first tell you that when I first saw him again, the butterflies were definitely back. We talked and joked a bit, it was extremely nice, casual, simple, easy, and just all around sweet. It flowed with a lot of ease and we ended up having lunch together that same day.

Ok, here comes the freaky part: it turns out we have VERY similar backgrounds and interests. Went to the same schools, picked the same classes, share similar values and opinions about things, same passions, and the timeline of our lives has some funny coincidences (if you can even still call it that at this point).

We had great chemistry throughout the whole conversation (which lasted almost 2 hours). And while you’d think I left with a super excited feeling, I surprisingly left with an extremely peaceful and calm mind. I was also very confident that this was only the beginning, and I just felt sooo at peace. Can’t really explain it, and this feeling came quite unexpected. I would have assumed I’d be feeling hyper instead, but nope! Contentment and peace it was.

My heart still skips a beat when we look at each other in the eyes, it’s like I could literally get lost in them and die lol So strange! It seems to be likewise for him.

I did not mention any of the coincidences to him yet. I might in a more distant future, but not now. It’s still the early stages, and it’s flowing perfectly without synchronicities being mentioned. I did, however, find out that his last relationship apparently broke off around the time my coincidences started on my side, which is pretty damn freaky. Past relationships will probably be discussed further later on, so sooner or later, I will have the exact timeline of it all figured out. It’s just so strange.

Well, when I started writing this blog a year ago, I refused to get into the whole soulmate subject. But I must admit that I’m slowly starting to think I have indeed found my soulmate. And this sounds corny, but my heart feels like it has come home, and that’s the best way I can describe this feeling. It’s all so weird, I’m gonna need a while to digest it all so I can write a more objective post about this later on.

I just got a message from him on my phone, and it sounds like he’s going to ask me out some time next week or so

PS: my gut feeling about the e-mail turned out to be a life saver. While talking to him, a collegue interrupted us for a second to tell him that they had just found out that their professional e-mails hadn’t worked properly for the past month and so messages weren’t coming through. He shrugged and joked it didn’t matter, since he never checks his anyway. Hah! I’m so glad I did not go the e-mail route.

Hey everybody! This blog has really grown a lot since I first started, and the number of regular readers is constantly growing. I was looking at it today, and realized we could have a mine of information here. So I decided to start posting polls once in a while.

1. First. Why polls? Well, we’re all here because we’re looking for answers, and they’re obviously not out there (yet). I initially created this blog to share my experience and figured that if I was lucky I might even get some interesting feedback. Now I realize there’s so many of us out there, all looking for the same answers! I’m not claiming I’ll ever be able to make total sense of it, but my analytical nature makes me want to gather as many details as I can, and perhaps we’ll be able to draw some interesting conclusions.
2. Second. There is no obligation to respond. However, if you’re here because you have experienced synchronicities, your answers would be very valuable as they might help us shed some light on the subject.
3. Third. Everything is anonymous. There’s no trick here, and I have no way of knowing who answered what. All I’m interested in is the answers, not where they come from

We’ll start with a basic one: are you male or female? I have a slight feeling most of my visitors are girls/women. And I’m wondering whether this phenomenon occurs more to women or men, or equally to both.

Are you male or female?

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There will be more polls in the future. I’ll post them between my regular updates, and hopefully we’ll be able to gather lots of responses over time.

Thanks a lot if you participate! Your answers are greatly appreciated.

Well, 2 months have passed since my last post. It has been a busy Summer for me, so I admit I haven’t had a whole lot of time to focus on this. Before I continue, I want to apologize to the people I haven’t responded to yet. I got a few lovely private messages, and I want you to know I read every single one of them. Thank you

Now, as far as my situation is concerned: our common friend has lead to nothing. She’s no longer in touch with him, so yeah. Last week, I reconsidered my whole “I’d rather die than send an e-mail” rule. Not sure what triggered it, but it suddenly popped into my head that it might not be SUCH a bad idea after all. I wrote a draft and let it simmer for a few days, then showed one of my best friends who actually found it surprisingly good … it was short and casual. Just a simple hello and how are you doing type of thing.

But I don’t know. Still. E-mails are so easy to ignore. And I know he’s not really a computer person, so he could end up only checking his box in 6 months, and if it’s one of those stupid boxes that auto delete messages after 30 days, I’ll be left wondering forever and it will only drive me crazier not to know whether he purposely didn’t respond or what.

So then. I might give our geographical closeness a shot (is that even a word?). There’s a place right next to his work, where I used to have lunch on a regular basis in the past. I’m starting to think that picking up this old habit might push my luck a little. And physically bumping into someone generally has a bigger impact than a random text. I know that totally sounds stalkerish though. I feel like a creep for considering this, but it’s the best I can come up with right now … **sigh**

I had such a panicking thought yesterday: as I was staring at my little e-mail draft, I tried to imagine what kind of response I could end up getting. At first I imagined a quick “hey, nice to hear from you “, and then it slowly drifted to “Oh hey, I’m doing great! I’m about to get married!”, and then “Amazing! I just got married and I’ll soon be a dad”. I think I slightly hyperventilated for a minute. **shudders**

The “signs” have stopped, by the way. No more synchronicities since July. Hmm …

Alright, I read all my past posts yesterday, then gave myself a whole day to digest it all, and now that’s been done, I have firmly decided to do something about the situation. Being a passive spectator of all those freaky coincidences no longer suffices, and I feel I must now react and do something about it to finally make things move forward. If not to be with him, then at least for my own curiosity’s sake, and the satisfaction of finding out the truth behind it all. I am determined to figure out whether this phenomenon really is a cluster of “signs”, or simply tricks of our imagination.

I Googled the subject some more today, and found the results quite frustrating. I basically found:

• people who were in the same situation as me and wondered what was happening to them
• New Age websites continuously mixing up synchronicities with soulmates, claiming they are well understood facts, and seriously explaining how they’re linked to past lives …. blah blah

Uhm, no. Those aren’t answers. And while the past lives topic seriously makes me cringe, I also have to face the fact that it doesn’t look like regular every day confused people – like you and me – have really looked into this yet, or have even attempted to figure it out. Not even on their own personal level (as I’m aware it’s really hard to generalize conclusions and apply them to everybody, since every life is different). I’m no expert in anything, and neither are the people who come to this website looking for answers. New Age theories bore me, and they are actually quite pointless. Because what matters is finding out how far things can really go in real life and in practice. I will find out soon whether my proactive reaction to these synchronicities is the dumbest mistake ever or an amazing leap of faith with great results.

As mentioned in my very first post about the subject: I am very careful about the whole soulmate concept, and I don’t feel comfortable labeling my experience as such yet. The facts are: I have consistently bumped into coincidences revolving around the same person, sometimes to an almost surreal point, but that’s all I know for now, and that’s all I’m gonna have to work with.

I have decided to handle this very objectively, and although it may be hard, I have to keep myself on track without getting carried away by emotions. At least within reason … :p I will now explain my 2-step list of how I’m planning to handle it, and concretely react and take control of the situation.

- Step 1: Keeping in touch with reality
I started a file on my desktop; it’s a list of all the memories I have involving him, back when we interacted on a daily basis. I found it vital to put it all down, and remember the good and the bad days. What felt great, and what felt bad. What he did, and what he didn’t do. What I said, and what he said. Every memory is a precious piece of my puzzle. I realized I had only kept a limited number of memories in mind, which gave me a rather narrow view of what the real situation was several years ago. The rest had been pushed so far back in my head that I had almost forgotten it completely, and now that I have started this list, memories are slowly starting to pop back up. Things I had completely forgotten, interesting memories that didn’t seem meaningful back then and which now look like they might actually be quite important. Our memory is selective, it’s important to gear it back into wide open/neutral mode. Because every piece matters. It also makes me realize that things with him have never been a flawless fairytale, and that certain things did go wrong. They went wrong for a reason. I don’t know all the reasons yet, but this list is slowly helping me figure them out. To my biggest surprise, it has also made me realize my own flaws. Things I didn’t handle right, opportunities I didn’t take when I had the chance to, partly because I was too young and inexperienced. They’re things I know now, and mistakes I wouldn’t make again, and that is already a valuable lesson.

- Step 2: The plan
Since all those coincidences seem to be centered around this one person, only one reaction sticks out as the most obvious: getting back in touch with him, somehow. He seems to be the center of it all, so I must get to the core of this; which is him. I made a list of all the different ways I could possibly contact him:
- I have his phone number
- I have his e-mail address at work
- We have a friend in common (although she doesn’t seem to see him much anymore)
- I live near his work
- He plays in a local band; which has a website with future gigs listed

These are all possibilities for me to either meet him or get in touch with him. Now I have to weed through the list, and decide which would be the most appropriate options and put them in that order. For instance, I dumped the e-mail at the bottom, because it’s stupid to even consider it … “Hello, I just found your work e-mail address and figured I’d say hello … after almost a decade”. Awkwarddd. It also screams “lame and pathetic”, because hiding behind a screen has never been too memorable.

I put our common friend at the top of the list, because it’s a nice way of getting back in touch with people. It’s not awkward and it flows more naturally. So I think I’ll try to push things in that direction first and see how it goes. If it fails, I’ll move on to option 2, and so on. I’m still not sure I’d want to go as far down as e-mailing him though, hahah!

It also feels important to me not to strictly consider him in a romantic way, because maybe there is another purpose behind it all. And although I admit he does look really appealing to me, I have already accepted that we could simply be friends, and that would be perfectly okay.

I have also decided to use this blog as my little motivation diary. It’s easier to stick to things and get them done correctly when you write them down and share them publicly. I’m sure I’ll need. First step for me now: calling our common friend. I haven’t spoken to her in a while, so we should definitely meet up for a drink soon, and then I’ll have to play it by ear as far as he’s concerned. Fingers crossed!

Well, it’s been months since I’ve written here. A little update on my last entry, which was centered around soulmates and synchronicities … I haven’t actually contacted him, and I’m not planning to right now. I can’t wrap my little head around a decent reason to. It’s weird and it’s awkward, and just the thought of it makes me shiver. I’ve also questioned myself a lot, as this whole story makes me wonder whether I might have some psychological issue that involves me not being able to let go of the past, or something … There must be a medical term for that, I’m sure. I mean, it’s been nearly a decade for Christ’s sake. And why now? Why? Why did it suddenly all come back to me? And why have those coincidences started 8 months ago? I mean, the past years had been perfectly fine and quiet, and it’s not like I even thought of him anymore. I can honestly say that I was totally over it and had completely moved on to something else, and I was perfectly happy with that. So now, what the hell?

Off the top of my head, here’s a quick list of some freaky things that happened to me since my last post:

• In March, all the computers at work strangely set themselves to his birth year. We didn’t notice right away, but customers slowly started complaining that their invoices weren’t dated right. I figured it was just some random glitch, until we got flooded with hundreds of angry messages. And it quickly spread to the entire system. It then spontaneously fixed itself after 2 days, before we could even figure out what had caused it. That year popped up all over the place for two whole days, it was literally insane.
• There’s another guy I used to have a bit of a crush on … I looked him up a few months ago and noticed he was using a fake name online (I suppose to protect his privacy, which I understand) … Well, his fake full name turns out to be my middle name + Mr. Synchronicity’s last name. I gasped when I saw it! I have no idea how he came up with that combination, but in any case, it is disturbing how he just pulled it out of the blue. I never even told him any of this, because we were never that close, but yeah, that fake name gives me chills. Needless to say I clicked away fast! -ugh-
• A couple more weird things happened after that, but it involves too specific details to mention here.
• And last week, the name of his band (which is a quite uncommon word; I even had to look up the meaning lol) was mentioned to me in 3 different situations, the very same day. The first time, I didn’t think much of it. The second time, I thought it was funny. The third time, I was officially creeped out.

I don’t know what to make of it all. I’m sure some people will say I’m reading too much into things. I don’t know, maybe I am. Maybe I should set myself a goal. Like, make up my mind about it, and decide to either get in touch with him soon, or let go now and turn the page for good. It’s obviously bugging me, still, so I’m tempted to go with option 1. I guess I just shouldn’t have any expectations; simply go for it and see where it leads me. If it all turns into a major fiasco, or even nothing at all, then I’ll know for sure that it was just some silly crap in my head. And then I can share it with the hundreds of people who visit this blog (yes, I’m shocked! I didn’t know there were so many of us in this situation lol), and then we can all learn that we’re simply a little sick in the head. Hahah

I wish somebody on the net had actually documented their own personal case already, and drawn objective conclusions to share with the world. It might spare me from some serious embarrassment. I guess I’ll have to find out for myself. I’ll keep you guys updated!