Hey you guys! I’ve been living on cloud 9 for a few days now. I finally met up with him!!!

Let me first tell you that when I first saw him again, the butterflies were definitely back. We talked and joked a bit, it was extremely nice, casual, simple, easy, and just all around sweet. It flowed with a lot of ease and we ended up having lunch together that same day.

Ok, here comes the freaky part: it turns out we have VERY similar backgrounds and interests. Went to the same schools, picked the same classes, share similar values and opinions about things, same passions, and the timeline of our lives has some funny coincidences (if you can even still call it that at this point).

We had great chemistry throughout the whole conversation (which lasted almost 2 hours). And while you’d think I left with a super excited feeling, I surprisingly left with an extremely peaceful and calm mind. I was also very confident that this was only the beginning, and I just felt sooo at peace. Can’t really explain it, and this feeling came quite unexpected. I would have assumed I’d be feeling hyper instead, but nope! Contentment and peace it was.

My heart still skips a beat when we look at each other in the eyes, it’s like I could literally get lost in them and die lol So strange! It seems to be likewise for him.

I did not mention any of the coincidences to him yet. I might in a more distant future, but not now. It’s still the early stages, and it’s flowing perfectly without synchronicities being mentioned. I did, however, find out that his last relationship apparently broke off around the time my coincidences started on my side, which is pretty damn freaky. Past relationships will probably be discussed further later on, so sooner or later, I will have the exact timeline of it all figured out. It’s just so strange.

Well, when I started writing this blog a year ago, I refused to get into the whole soulmate subject. But I must admit that I’m slowly starting to think I have indeed found my soulmate. And this sounds corny, but my heart feels like it has come home, and that’s the best way I can describe this feeling. It’s all so weird, I’m gonna need a while to digest it all so I can write a more objective post about this later on.

I just got a message from him on my phone, and it sounds like he’s going to ask me out some time next week or so

PS: my gut feeling about the e-mail turned out to be a life saver. While talking to him, a collegue interrupted us for a second to tell him that they had just found out that their professional e-mails hadn’t worked properly for the past month and so messages weren’t coming through. He shrugged and joked it didn’t matter, since he never checks his anyway. Hah! I’m so glad I did not go the e-mail route.

I have been so busy! I wish I could tell you what I’ve been up to, but I’m trying to keep this website as anonymous as possible. So I apologize for the lack of details.

Meanwhile, (and although I haven’t had the time to really take matters into my own hands just yet) things have taken a pretty funky turn.

About 2 or 3 weeks ago, I got back in touch with an old friend of mine by e-mail. He’s completely unrelated to Mr. Synchronicity, by the way. I have to admit I had tried to keep the Synchronicity guy out of my head in the past couple of months, because I really had too much going on already. Then as my old friend and I started writing to each other, I’ll admit that the thought of him actually being a nice potential boyfriend crossed my mind. Especially since he’s a lot more reachable and thus an easier target than Mr. Synchronicity and he’s not too bad looking either. I got a little carried away for a few days (lol), and immediately realized I had to cool off. I wanted to invite him out for lunch or coffee, but didn’t want to do this with the wrong state of mind. I’ve been single for months now, and I’m slowly starting to miss having a boyfriend. So I decided to give myself a few days to chill and figure out which direction I really wanted to go. He is an old friend after all, and he could simply remain a friend if I want to.

Then a quirky little synchronicity happened, which was surprisingly linked to  … my old friend!

The day I had decided to cool off for a few days, I had quickly read over the mails we had exchanged so far, and suddenly wondered where exactly he was living at the moment as he hadn’t mentioned it yet. Then I remembered him telling me 2 years ago that he had moved to a certain town not too far from here, and I randomly wondered what zip code that was. But I had to go and I couldn’t be bothered to look it up. so I closed my laptop and left. The next day, I received an e-mail from someone … it was a guy I had e-mailed a while back about a dining table for sale. The dining table was to be picked up by the buyer at his place, so I had asked him where exactly he was located. A few days passed, and as I got no response, I assumed that the table got sold and didn’t think more of it. So then, exactly one day after wondering about my old friend’s address, I got a message from this seller saying: “Hi, I’m so sorry for the delay. I’m in name of the town + zip code” – I gasped – There it was, right in front of me: the town and zip code I had been too lazy to look up the day before! The place where my old friend lives! Hah! I giggled. This was neat.

I jumped to conclusions and assumed: “Hey, this synchronicity thing must be pointing at whoever could be a good match for me. So it’s not necessarily all about one exclusive soulmate or something.” So I contacted my old friend and asked him if he wanted to meet up and grab something to eat together. (I also found it incredibly ironic how that one e-mail mentioning his town + zip code was actually about a DINING table). So anyway, we decided that a place next to his work would be the most practical, as my schedule is much more flexible than his. So he gave me his office address. It didn’t hit me right away, but I realized a few hours later that it is in fact only 2 streets away from where Mr. Synchronicity works. And on top of it, Mr. Synchronicity’s work is actually  right on my way there. I was a little baffled, and decided to look at a map and see if there was any other way to get there without passing in front of Mr. Synchonicity’s work. Well, there isn’t. It’s right there, and there’s no way to avoid it. My stomach cramped up a little as I realized that it all inevitably spins right back at him!!

My friend and I haven’t decided about the exact day yet, as I’m still pretty busy myself, and he’s got some stuff going on at the moment too. So it will probably be some time in the next few weeks. It would be the icing on the cake if I actually bumped into Mr. Synchronicity on my way there, but let’s not jump to conclusions yet. Whatever the case though, I’m sure this new series of events isn’t just a coincidence, and I’m pretty confident that there’s more to come.

I won’t tell my whole detailed biography, because no one cares and it’s irrelevant anyway, but some strange coincidences that continuously revolve around the same person, have seriously made me wonder about the subject. I did some digging, and found a lot of articles that basically copied or paraphrased each other, and simply lacked substance.

Most of my questions are left unanswered at this point, but I would like to find out more about what it is exactly that triggers those “coincidences” or “synchronicities” as some people call them. And more importantly: are they really that meaningful, or are we just making a big deal out of nothing?

If I analyze all the past coincidences I’ve had, I could rationally eliminate a bunch of them and just call them luck. Like the big billboard that was put up right next to my apartment a few years ago, it had his last name tagged right in the middle, followed with “it’s all you need!”. Of course I couldn’t avoid looking at it every day as I came back home, it was right there in front of me. But if I told you his last name is one of the most common names in the country, you’d quickly throw it out the window. And so will I. Because easy coincidences are not that hard to find if you look for them.

However, although I haven’t seen him in years, things have gotten a bit more disturbing lately. It started about 2 months ago. The one that shocked me the most happened while I was watching a new series on TV. The main character reminded me of him; the resemblance was uncanny. Right before the first episode ended, a child looked up at him and asked him when he was born. He looked at the child and told him his birth-date … I think my heart skipped a beat! The day, month, and year, were EXACTLY the same. I was stunned. And come to think of it, I find myself a bit creepy for actually remembering his birthday after so many years. Hah! But back to the series: I kept asking myself, what were the chances of this ever happening? I mean, really. I’m sure the chances were pretty damn low. (edit: ok, I calculated and it’s basically one chance out of roughly 131400 different combination possibilities).

Another one happened yesterday; the car I was in happened to pass right in front of the place where he works … Not that big of a deal. Except that right that second, the radio started playing the last song I had heard him sing. Again, I was speechless. Those coincidences were starting to get far trickier than the easy ones I had seen before.

So now what? Let’s assume they’re some kind of signs from whoever/whatever/wherever. All clearly pointing to this one person in a way I could not possibly avoid it, yet subtle and private enough for no one else around to notice. I haven’t seen him in years though. So why does life keep rubbing it in my face?

Since the level of freakishness of all those synchronicities got me thinking on a more spiritual level (and I really tried to stay as clear headed as possible), I started looking for more spiritual answers. As I read my way through several pages, I systematically bumped into the subject of soul-mates. Soulmates are such a vast topic though, I’m not sure I even want to go there. One thing is certain though: unless this is some kind of big cosmic joke, I keep being hit in the head by massive arrows pointing right at him. And if there is a purpose or point behind all this, I guess I would logically have to react to them … and the only obvious reaction would be to get back in touch with him, I suppose.

But how crazy is that? Someone I haven’t spoken to in years. Hello awkward. Although at this point I’m starting to be really curious as to what would happen if I actually did initiate contact. Would the coincidences stop? Would there be a lesson to learn down the road? What’s the point of it all?

I’m still searching …

• Read the outcome here (as well as everything that happened in between).
  (added November 27th 2008)