I won’t tell my whole detailed biography, because no one cares and it’s irrelevant anyway, but some strange coincidences that continuously revolve around the same person, have seriously made me wonder about the subject. I did some digging, and found a lot of articles that basically copied or paraphrased each other, and simply lacked substance.

Most of my questions are left unanswered at this point, but I would like to find out more about what it is exactly that triggers those “coincidences” or “synchronicities” as some people call them. And more importantly: are they really that meaningful, or are we just making a big deal out of nothing?

If I analyze all the past coincidences I’ve had, I could rationally eliminate a bunch of them and just call them luck. Like the big billboard that was put up right next to my apartment a few years ago, it had his last name tagged right in the middle, followed with “it’s all you need!”. Of course I couldn’t avoid looking at it every day as I came back home, it was right there in front of me. But if I told you his last name is one of the most common names in the country, you’d quickly throw it out the window. And so will I. Because easy coincidences are not that hard to find if you look for them.

However, although I haven’t seen him in years, things have gotten a bit more disturbing lately. It started about 2 months ago. The one that shocked me the most happened while I was watching a new series on TV. The main character reminded me of him; the resemblance was uncanny. Right before the first episode ended, a child looked up at him and asked him when he was born. He looked at the child and told him his birth-date … I think my heart skipped a beat! The day, month, and year, were EXACTLY the same. I was stunned. And come to think of it, I find myself a bit creepy for actually remembering his birthday after so many years. Hah! But back to the series: I kept asking myself, what were the chances of this ever happening? I mean, really. I’m sure the chances were pretty damn low. (edit: ok, I calculated and it’s basically one chance out of roughly 131400 different combination possibilities).

Another one happened yesterday; the car I was in happened to pass right in front of the place where he works … Not that big of a deal. Except that right that second, the radio started playing the last song I had heard him sing. Again, I was speechless. Those coincidences were starting to get far trickier than the easy ones I had seen before.

So now what? Let’s assume they’re some kind of signs from whoever/whatever/wherever. All clearly pointing to this one person in a way I could not possibly avoid it, yet subtle and private enough for no one else around to notice. I haven’t seen him in years though. So why does life keep rubbing it in my face?

Since the level of freakishness of all those synchronicities got me thinking on a more spiritual level (and I really tried to stay as clear headed as possible), I started looking for more spiritual answers. As I read my way through several pages, I systematically bumped into the subject of soul-mates. Soulmates are such a vast topic though, I’m not sure I even want to go there. One thing is certain though: unless this is some kind of big cosmic joke, I keep being hit in the head by massive arrows pointing right at him. And if there is a purpose or point behind all this, I guess I would logically have to react to them … and the only obvious reaction would be to get back in touch with him, I suppose.

But how crazy is that? Someone I haven’t spoken to in years. Hello awkward. Although at this point I’m starting to be really curious as to what would happen if I actually did initiate contact. Would the coincidences stop? Would there be a lesson to learn down the road? What’s the point of it all?

I’m still searching …

• Read the outcome here (as well as everything that happened in between).
  (added November 27th 2008)